NOVEMBER 14, 2014
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Raising Daughters

By Josh Schiering, Executive Director of LINX Camps

As the father of three daughters (7th, 5th and 3rd grade), I want to make sure I raise them to value equality:  equality at home, in school and in the workplace.  I want my girls to think beyond the borders portrayed in books, on tv, in schools and in life.  My girls will understand that the only limits they have, are the limits they set on themselves!     

Josh Schiering with his three daughters

Bailey (7th), Marina (5th) and Landyn (3rd)


“My girls will understand that the only limits they have are the limits they set on themselves!”


So where do you begin? It begins with unconditional love.  The love we all have for our children.  We all naturally do everything in our power to help our children in life.  We have to be careful, however, that when doing everything we can to help, we are not creating unrealistic expectations, nor limitations that can define their existence.  We have to train our girls to think and do for themselves.  



  1. >Think for yourself
  2. >Do for yourself
  3. >Be independent
  4. >Work hard
  5. >Help others
  6. >See projects through to the end and never do anything halfway
  7. >Do everything to the best of your ability
  8. >Try new things
  9. >Love yourself for who you are
  10. >Know that you are good enough the way you are
  11. >Don’t bully, don’t be bullied and don’t tolerate the bullying of others
  12. >It’s okay to stumble, as long as you get up and run smarter and faster



We must teach our daughters that failing is not the opposite of succeeding, but rather that it is required in order to succeed. Just the other day my youngest daughter Landyn came to me looking so sad.  I asked her what was wrong and she said, “I got a letter from the teacher today.” She retrieved the letter from her backpack, and sure enough, the teacher had written me a note that Landyn had been too chatty in class and that she did not listen when she was asked to stop.  Landyn was certainly sad and remorseful.  I explained to her that this behavior was not acceptable and that class time is the wrong time to socialize.  I went on to share that not listening after being asked to stop is even more unacceptable.  I had Landyn write an apology card to her teacher explaining what she had done wrong, and that it would not happen again.  Landyn also lost privileges and was grounded from TV for a week.  That night, after she brushed her teeth, I went in to tuck her in and whispered the following words into her ear as she lay there ready to go to sleep. “Landy, you made a mistake in school, but you are not defined by that mistake, we all make mistakes.  We are defined by how we react to our mistakes.”  I went on to explain, “You have a chance to make it better starting tomorrow.  Learn from this mistake and do better next time.”

In summary:  Landyn was spoken to about her behavior while also receiving consequences and a positive life message.  This lesson, I hope, will stay with her as she continues to grow and learn.  


I recently sat down with my three girls and asked them to share aloud as many jobs as they could think of.  The list was short at first.  You probably would not be surprised to hear that doctor, nurse, teacher, janitor and store clerk made the top five. It makes sense that the people they come in contact with the most, made the short list.  I then pushed them to think harder and we got to a list of about 57 jobs (not bad!). But how many of these occupations are foreign to them and how many successful women have they encountered in these roles?  Our lives are not set up to introduce our daughters to female role models who are successful business women, scientists, engineers, writers, artists, craftsmen, etc.

So, in my role as Executive Director of LINX Camps (an award winning summer day camp where my daughters attend), I have decided to do something about it!  I am taking on this challenge for the sake of my girls and the community at large.  At LINX Camps, we are pushed to be innovative and to support our community members through our youth services.  While LINX Camps offer over 30 unique specialty, sport and general camp programs to meet the needs of each family member, I saw an opportunity to create something new and inspiring for our girls.    


LINX Camps has reserved specific camp programs that are focused on developing the athleticism and leadership of the young women in our community.

The following programs will be led by female business leaders from a variety of industries

  • G.I.R.L. Power - Leadership training
  • CIT (counselor in training) Leadership program
  • The LINX Lions Den (entrepreneurship, project management and more - think TV show Shark Tank for kids!)


  • Lacrosse Training Camp (Led by Weston HS Varsity Coach)
  • Softball Training Academy (Led by Division 1 standout Cassidi)
  • Volleyball Training Academy (Led by the Dana Hall HS Varsity Coach)
  • Gaming App Design
  • OA Teen Trek’ers


I want my daughters to have strong, successful, smart and caring female role models in their lives.  That’s why I personally interview over 500 candidates to hire less than 40 people to join our staff each summer.  You have to be the best of the best to get to work at LINX Camps.  LINX Camps is dedicated to raising strong, independent critical thinkers and problem solvers.  We want our girls to be leaders in academics, sports and business.



Below, please find some terrific inspirational quotes by powerful & successful women in our world you can share with your daughters.  

Oprah Winfrey quote

“Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.” – Oprah Winfrey (Entrepreneur/Personality)

Sheryl Sandberg quote

“We cannot change what we are not aware of, and once we are aware, we cannot help but change.” – Sheryl Sandberg (COO of Facebook)

Anne Sweeney quote

“Define success on your own terms, achieve it by your own rules, and build a life you’re proud to live.” –Anne Sweeney (President of Walt Disney)

Ellen DeGeneres quote

“I work really hard at trying to see the big picture and not getting stuck in ego. I believe we’re all put on this planet for a purpose, and we all have a different purpose… When you connect with that love and that compassion, that’s when everything unfolds.” – Ellen DeGeneres (Comedian/Personality/Philanthropist)

Maya Angelou quote

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” – Maya Angelou (Author/Poet)

Sara Blakely quote

“Don’t be intimidated by what you don’t know. That can be your greatest strength and ensure that you do things differently from everyone else.” – Sara Blakely (Founder of Spanx – Worlds Youngest Female Billionaire)

Marissa Mayer quote

“I always did something I was a little not ready to do. I think that’s how you grow. When there’s that moment of ‘Wow, I’m not really sure I can do this,’ and you push through those moments, that’s when you have a breakthrough.” - Marissa Mayer (CEO of Yahoo)

J.K Rowling quote

“It is our choices, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” - J.K Rowling (Billionaire Author)

Mother Teresa quote

“Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.” – Mother Teresa (Philanthropist/Charity Worker)

Ayn Rand quote

“The question isn’t who is going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.” – Ayn Rand (Novelist/Philosopher)

Diane Sawyer quote

“Whatever you want in life, other people are going to want it too. Believe in yourself enough to accept the idea that you have an equal right to it.” – Diane Sawyer (ABC/World News/Disney)

Josh Schiering is the proud dad of three girls and a son and the Executive DIrector of the #1 Day Camp in Massachusetts, LINX Camps at Dana Hall (an all girls school in Wellesley, MA).  To learn more about LINX Camps or the programs they offer, go to

Serving Wellesley and surrounding communities, LINX is now in its seventh year of operation with over thirty premier camps. The main office is located at 141 Linden Street in Wellesley, MA. For more information on LINX Science Camp or to register, visit or call 781-235-3210.